This past Sunday in our “Desperate House Lives” sermon series, I made the point that always being practical can be a romance killer in our marriages. Sometimes, you’ve just got to be impractical! I want to applaud two desperately impractical couples in our church – Cary and Amanda Penrose and Dan and Katie Griffin.
Cary and Amanda are the worship leaders at our church. Both are in seminary, Amanda works fulltime, and Cary works at The Bridge and at another part-time job. Wow. That is busy. They don’t have any children yet, which gave them the opportunity to do something very impractical – something all of us probably wish we would have the impracticality to do: they drove to California and back over a period of ten days! Of course, they made several touristy stops along the way, but what a valuable model of impracticality. I mean, who drives to California? For fun? That’s crazy! But what an opportunity to travel, see the USA, and spend some valuable time bonding with your spouse! “Way to Go” Cary and Amanda!
Dan and Katie Griffin are taking impracticality to a whole new level! Dan and Katie are both currently jobless, but due to their apparent adeptness towards financial freedom (check out Dan’s side job – www.savvydollar.org) , they are taking a 5 month vacation that begins in New Zealand! Are you serious? Yes! Dan and Katie are newly weds, without kids, and have the guts to take advantage of an opportunity of impractical proportions that they may never get again! And why not?!? Our number one relationship and responsibility after God is our spouse. Doing impractical things that show we love each other, build the relationship, and make memories is a great way to keep romance alive in our relationships and our marriages healthy.
I know that not all of can be as impractical as the Penrose’s and Griffin’s, but all of us can learn from their example. Here are some ideas for being impractical as a couple:
- Take a vacation. You really do need it.
- Go to that expensive restaurant on a birthday or anniversary. Celebrate!
- Let the grass grow an extra week and take a day trip somewhere one Saturday.
- Plan a coffee date with your spouse. Pay for a babysitter or work an exchange with another couple where you watch their kids in return for their watching yours.
- Practice the 10 second kiss!
- Do something – something different.
Your marriage is too valuable. Keep the romance alive. Become a student of your spouse. Be a servant in your home. God wants to move your marriage from “Desperate House Lives” to “Dream Marriage.” It can happen. But is takes work. And impracticality.